Wish you could land a copy of the handbook How to Get Her to Go Upstairs with You? Thought so—now keep reading. There’s no book. Bringing her back starts and ends with you. It’s all about how you pitch it.
That's where our Men's Health News series comes in—to help you craft that perfect pitch to get your way every time.
You can shrink your cable bill, land your dream job, and get her up those stairs by being a wordsmith. Let’s start at the beginning.
Rule #1: Make a Dinner Date Strangers don’t break bread together. The mere act of eating together is intimate. It's primal. Think about it: Hunters and gatherers share their findings—people that eat together stay together. Take it a step further and offer her some of your dinner—sharing off the same plate is something that people usually only do when they are very close to one another, says Tracey Steinberg, dating coach and flirting expert.
Rule #2: Look at Her “First and foremost, women are more likely to go upstairs when they feel safe and connected,” says Steinberg. How to make it happen: Eye contact. To let her know you’re focused and connected to her, try to meet her eyes 70 percent of the time you’re talking, Steinberg suggests. You might want to adjust your thermostat, too.
Rule #3: Sex Up Your Compliment Sure, “You look nice,” works. But if you want the night to end in your bedroom—or at least your place—make her feel sexy. Say, “Those jeans look great on you,” Steinberg suggests. A compliment referencing her body lets her know you're attracted to her without creepily stating that she has a great butt.
Rule #4: Listen To Her You’ve heard this a lot—but it could actually help you at the end of the night. See Rule #5.
Rule #5: Invite Her Somewhere She Wants To Go “On some level, a lot of women know they probably shouldn’t go upstairs—even if they want to,” says Steinberg. In her head, "Do you want to go upstairs?" translates to, "Do you want to go hook up?" She doesn't want to feel like she's being used. Your move: Has she mentioned The Office 10 times, her Jay-Z playlist, or an obsession with coffee? Ask if she wants to come up for a cup, or some DVRed episodes. It'll take the pressure off, and make going upstairs more enticing, says Steinberg. Plus, it gives both of you an easy out if—for some reason—you're not feeling it.
Rule #6: When in Doubt, Act If nerves are taking over at the end of the night—and as long as you haven't been getting bad vibes from her all night—just go for it, says Steinberg. “Women like men that are assertive—just don’t have any expectations if she agrees to come up."