1. Handle yourself the way you want him to. He's not picking up on your cues? Just start touching yourself the way you'd like him to touch you. He'll get the idea, hopefully.
2. Touch him the way you want to be touched. It's like the golden rule of sex. Pull his hair so he knows you want him to pull yours, and so on.
3. Tell him what you don't like. There is a way to do this casually! Simply say something like, "I don't like that, but I do like this" and move his hand there. Ideally, he wants to do a good job anyway, so he'll appreciate it.
4. Act like he's never done this before. Yes, ideally he would know exactly what you want and what to do immediately, but that's usually not the case. There's nothing wrong with guiding him like he's never done this because he doesn't know what works with you yet, so it's still foreign territory.
5. Give plenty of encouragement, but only when what he's doing is working! If you are moaning at every single thing he does and every single thing he does isn't working for you, he thinks he's killing it when he's totally not. So save your "Oh yeah!" comments for when it's actually working for you. Because then he'll take note of that and hopefully do less of what wasn't working.
6. Make it sound like you just thought of an idea. "You know what would be really hot? If you went down on me while you played with my nipples." Like that had never before occurred to you and only now are you seeing its possible merits!
7. Straight-up tell him in detail what you want him to do. "OK, do you have a pen? If not, that's OK because I have provided a handout. Starting on page one ..."
8. Never fake it. If you don't tell him he's not the greatest at this, he'll leave the situation thinking he isgreat at this, and then future women will wonder why the hell this guy thinks he's so good at this. Help him through it for the good of everyone.
