Oh, boy, here we go. The answer, to put it simply: no. But I understand why couples do share their passwords. It's a sign of how completely devoted and faithful you are to one another. That trust can't be doubted or questioned if you have access to his email, his phone, his social media accounts, right?
I suppose. But what does it say about you if you're checking?Sharing is one thing, but not respecting a person enough to never check it is where it can all go awry. Trust is a big part of any relationship, maybe even the biggest. But being open and honest with your partner doesn't necessarily mean you have to share every little thing. I'm sure many of you are scoffing but there are just some things we have to keep to ourselves.
Do you really have to know what time he and his buddies are teeing off, or what he and his sister are getting their mom for her birthday? Sure, those are the little, innocent things but by opening up this can of worms, you will be privy to everything. Everyone is entitled to a private life. Your partner shouldn't, nor does he or she, need to see everything.
Here's the conundrum: is it a text he shouldn't be sending, or one you shouldn't be reading? Both sides can be argued but it will always boil down to trust. It needs to be earned, of course, but once it is, why cross the line? Perhaps if you're having doubts and are checking simply for peace of mind. But what happens when it becomes this compulsion, an obsession even, where you are constantly checking, peeking, sneaking (stalking?
) his email, texts and Facebook? You may think you're justified but I'm here to tell you it's wrong. So spectacularly wrong.These trust issues are only the beginning and it's up to you to figure out if they can be resolved — or it's the beginning of the end. You can't be mad if he doesn't give you his password and he can't resent you checking on his stuff all the time, especially when he gave you access. The world we live in today limits our privacy so maintaining any sorts of boundaries are healthy, not hindering.
How much of our lives do we want our significant others to see — and how much of our significant others' lives do we want to see? Whatever the case, for every couple dealing with this, the line has to be drawn somewhere. Love means never having to say you're sorry you went behind his back and read all his emails and texts.