Most of the women in my inner circle have a number—and we all know exactly what number I'm referring to—that hovers right around three. If that number seems low, keep in mind that most of my female friends are serially monogamous, married, or moral. They're also, for the most part, attached to men whose numbers are four times their own.
Problem? Weird? Non-issue? Let's discuss.
A numbers discussion has come up with every guy I've been with, either because one of us initiated or, in the case of one ex, we'd been BFF and already knew every intimate detail of the other's life. But in any case, in any relationship, I've never found that knowing did anything for me or him—positive or negative. You're hooking up, dating, or married to each other because you find one another irresistible, regardless of how many previous partners you've each had.
What's more, you can't change your number or his. There's no magic pill to pop to restore your virginity or make you forget that unfortunate drunken incident in the back of a car. He can't go back in time and take a step back from that blond or catch up to the difference in your digits. So why worry about it?
Obviously, if you're not exclusive, you have a right—for health reasons alone—to know how many other women with whom he's currently swapping bodily fluids. Otherwise, in my experience, knowing each other's number does nothing more than bother you momentarily before fading into the background.
But what do you think? Do you like to know your partner's number? How has it made you feel to find out?
